Decision to Move

David and I got to know each other thru long talks after dances, endless emails and phone calls. But until Memorial Day weekend, we had never been alone together. We were by ourselves, out in public, but not alone. However, I can tell you that I know him better than I’ve ever known anyone.

We are not kids talking of frivolous things but sharing in a deep and personal way. Nothing held back, no agendas, just honest openness of views, feelings and our past. We have both been though our own personal hell (David’s wife of 30 years died of cancer 4 years ago) and have dealt with it, learned lessons and are on the other side with no baggage. This is not a crazed wild ride but a thoughtful walk to deep understanding, trust, respect and love. We found that we are amazingly simpatico in heart and mind. I never believed in soul mates. Loved the idea but did not think it existed. I might be wrong.

The Memorial Day weekend was very special to our relationship. I took the train to Sacramento and spent Fri. evening, Sat. and part of Sun. at his home. We went to a dance in Hayward Sun. afternoon and came back to my home. We spent Memorial Day driving Highway 1 and walking on the beach. We hid away from the world coming out only to go out to eat and one dance. We took the time to just be together.

For years I've longed for someone who truly knew me inside and would talk to me and share their feelings about everything. David is one of the most empathic, introspective, kind, and solid person I’ve ever met. And he loves me completely!

After Memorial Day, I got a 1-month writing contract in Mountain View and I was still in school. We continued to write long email (several times a day), call each night and see each other at dances on the weekends. My contract ended July 1st and I took the train to Sacramento. That was the weekend of my birthday.

David made my birthday weekend wonderful. I arrived in Sacramento Friday evening. On Sat. we ran errands, then we went to Nevada City and had a wonderful dinner at Friar Tuck's and a very good Contra dance. I had never been to Nevada City.

Sunday, the 4th, we drove to Mill Valley and checked into the Aqua Inn. What a lovely romantic place. We had dinner in SF and decided not to stay for the fireworks. On Monday, we toured Mill Valley, drove to Muir woods and then took a walk on Stinson beach. For dinner we went to Horizons in Sausalito and watched as the lights wink on in SF, which was as good as fireworks.

Then because I was out of school and didn’t have a job. I went home with David and stayed two weeks. We really felt there was something very special between us and there was no way to have a long term dating life living 150 miles apart. We either had to cut bait or fish.

We talked about what we wanted and I decided I did not want to continue schooling so withdrew my application for the Ultrasound program. For many reasons we decided it was best if I move to Fair Oaks and keep my home in San Jose. The relationship was too new to do anything dramatic or irrevocable. So mid-July I started appling for jobs in the Sacramento area.

In mid-August, I got another 1-month contract with the same Mountain View company that would let me work 3 days in Fair Oaks and 2 days in Mountain View. If it worked out, they would offer me this position full time. One week later I started getting calls from recuirters for jobs in the Sacramento area. I realized that working in Fair Oaks and Mountain View and commuting via the train was not doable long term. So I accepted a job in Rancho Cordova and started packing.

David and I went to a dance weekend in San Francisco August 13-15. On Monday the 16th, he took my boxes of personalthings back to his home. I stayed in San Jose to finish the contract that ended July 17th. On the 19th I took the train to Sacramento and started my new job on the 23rd. I work for ProStores (an eBay company)about 7 miles from our home. Ric is living in my home in San Jose and going to school.

And so my new life has begun.

Also on the 23rd they started the construction project on David’s home, which meant they started removing the entire front of the house.

Next post pictures of the renovation.